My Mommyology

Learning from Motherhood.

July 4, 2012
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2012 Olympic Emotions

I can only imagine how hard it must be to be a parent of an Olympic athlete.  And yes — thank you P&G  for putting this in my head.

My husband and I follow the Olympics – particularly these last two sets (the 2008 and the 2012) since we get so much coverage of it here in the US.  We’ve been watching the Olympic trials for swimming, gymnastics and the sprints over the last week or so, and coupled with the Bounty – Let the Spills Begin Campaign, I find myself thinking more and more about what it would be like to be a parent of an Olympic athlete (instead of the usual, “What would it be like to compete in the Olympics?” thought bubble).

It goes without saying that I have tremendous respect for the athletes themselves.  Heck, they do the work and train for four years! (FOUR years!  So much in my life has changed in the last four years!  How do you train for just one event for four years?!  FOUR YEARS!)  I suppose my perspective has shifted since the last Olympics when I became a (proud) parent myself.

I can only imagine how much the parents’ lives revolve around supporting their child’s Olympic dream.  Taking them to training, making sure they get the right amount of sleep and the right kind of food, and helping keep their grades up…  I just feel (I could be wrong!) that for it to work and for a child to be completely inspired to win, then the parents have to be heavily invested in their dream too.  It consumes their schedules, their conversations, and most likely their entire lives!

As a parent you’d want to be at every meet, at every event… maybe even at every practice session, even if it is just for moral support.  Isn’t that what every child wants from their folks anyway?  But as Mom or Dad, you’re also caught in that middle ground which includes a certain amount of helplessness.  The grandstand is as far as the parents go and the work is all up to them.  The world watches — and judges — as your child triumphs or fails.

The success is easy to imagine, and it’s easy to carry on from that.  After all, everyone has put their blood, sweat and tears into making this one dream come true and off it goes.My Mommyology Olympic Emotions

But what happens if it’s your child who falls off the high bars?  Or who makes a slight error off the turn in the relay?  Even if you say you can manage expectations, you know they did their best… it still must be hard to watch.  Without a doubt every parent is proud of their child for trying so hard, but as real people with real emotions, the behind-the-scenes aftermath must be tough to deal with.  On TV everyone can put on a smile and say what the world wants to hear, but it’s the parent who has to take the child back home and withstand the tears and the consequences that come with the “failure”.

My Mommyology Nastia falls

Then what if… they want to do it all over again?  And try for the next Olympics?  It’s a repeat of the last four years ALL. OVER. AGAIN!  Except maybe now, there is a new element — a new “hope” that they make it this time around.  As if that makes it easier to go through!

Occasionally during the trials the TV camera would pan into the audience and feature the parents.  There didn’t seem to be any parent who looked relaxed.  Their auras (and white knuckles), emitted tension and nervousness through the TV screen.  Everyone of them seemed to be holding their breath, even Michael Phelps’ mom!  You’d think she’d be a little bit more confident since her son got 8 Gold Medals the last time.  Before every trial race she looked like she did 4 years ago, and she would explode with the same amount of energy each time he finished.  Actually she may have been holding her breath for each race, I wouldn’t be surprised!

Then again, Olympic parent or not — isn’t that how all parents feel about their children in all aspects of life?  Academics, tests, ballet recitals, and play dates… watching them grow up in general?  The Olympics merely puts this entire parenting perspective on a grander, high pressure scale, but no one is free from the barrage of mixed feelings that come with parenting.

I think about my girls and naturally I want them to achieve whatever it is they dream for themselves.  Knowing me, I will most likely be incredibly invested and will do all I can to help achieve this (I can be a Tiger Mom that way I think).  I don’t know how I’ll do just standing in the sidelines and watching as things play out (Praying to the highest heavens the whole time).  That isn’t my personality, but then again I don’t think I’d have much of a choice, now would I? 😉    Ahhh yes, another hard lesson to be learned as a parent.

It’s very cliché to say that for as long as they do their best I’d be proud any which way.  Yes, cliché but true (and there is no other way to say it).  And whether they like it or not (or know it or not), I will always be their #1 cheerleader and ultimate die-hard fan, simply because I am their mother.

(… And yes.  Motherhood has definitely made me more hormonal!)

July 2, 2012
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My Mommyology Likes: Useful Toddler “Gadgets”

I love discovering new “gadgets” and tools that help us Moms care for our kids and keep a little bit more of our sanity.

As it stands, it’s a lot to take in, day in and day out.  In my case, my kids test me, defy me, throw tantrums… or sometimes them just being kids is so tiring.  It’s a good thing for them to assert their independence and stick to what they want, but these little developmental milestones really don’t make it any easier!  There are messes, spills, meltdowns, and all sorts of make-it-work moments in all sorts of shape or form.  I’ve also found that with two toddlers, all of the above is double the work!

I’ve mentioned the Kidswitch several times before, as well as the Firefly toothbrushes.  My sling, the Baby K’Tan has also made it up the top of my “super useful” list.  And you all know how much a fan I am of potty seat covers.  I thought I’d add a few more to the list here:

My Mommyology Time Timer

In our house, the Time Timer is LAW!

The Time Timer.  I made this discovery a few months back through Rebecca at the start off Sam’s Imagine That! Kindermusik class last January.  Rebecca uses it in her class to give the kids a visual representation of when it is time to call their parents back into the room.  She says it alleviates the stress they may feel in being separated from their parents and that the kids can watch it but will still be able to enjoy the rest of the activities, knowing that at a concrete time, their parents will be allowed back in.

Essentially the Time Timer is a visual 60-minute countdown timer that shows kids (and whomever else is using it) how much time they have left for any activity.  If you check their website, you’ll find it has a lot of areas of use.  Over the last few months as Sam’s nap-time has dwindled into oblivion and her need to assert herself against all odds has heightened (all normal I’m told), I have found the Time Timer to be incredibly helpful.  There is less resistance on her part and more willingness to follow; over-all it’s much easier emotionally on both of us.

It’s because Sam can see that “when the red is all gone”, her time is up.  It’s irrefutable.  She has to say goodbye to her friends, or close the TV and get ready for bed, or as it is the case with nap time, she has to lie quietly in bed and can only get up when there is “no more red”.

The other good bit about it is that Sam has somewhat learned a general concept of time because of it.  “Mom I have 15 minutes left, see?”  And she points to the clock which shows that she indeed does have 15 minutes left.  Conversely she can also look at a regular clock and understands how it works a little better.

I super duper LOVE this gadget!

My Mommyology favorite gadgets

The picture says it all.

The Dripstick.  This was another recent discovery I made from my friend Helene.  As it is summer, popsicles and ice creams are abound.  Naturally with toddlers, as much as it means fun, it correlates to stickiness and mess and a whole lot of cleaning up after.  The Dripstick is really just a colorful plastic holder with a slot for a popsicle stick on one end, and a slot for an ice cream cone on the other.  And then it has little basins that a) serve as a stand to hold the said frozen dessert upright, and b) to catch whatever residue that falls!

So there is less risk of a mess (the girls know that they need to sit down and eat it) and when they are done (or if they forget about it), they just set it down upright and can be on their way to do something else.  All you have to do is rinse and stick it in the dishwasher!  Hurray! 🙂  It was a fairly neat discovery I must say.  We used it on Sam and Jamie’s fun pops over the weekend and the girls came out much cleaner (versus when Sam was eating out of a bowl) at the end of it.

The Splat Mat.  Similar to the concept of the Dripstick, but this time it’s for tables and high chairs.  It makes the carpet easier to clean too, since most of Sam’s and Jamie’s food residue or spills fall onto the splat mat.  We even use a splat mat for messy kinds of play, such as Play-Doh and paint.  Sometimes the splat mat is also the best place to put a puzzle (over a carpet and instead of on top of a table where the pieces fall down to the floor).  So yes, I don’t know what I’d do without one (or two) in my home.  Mind you —  they are the dirtiest things at the end of the day; but one Lysol wipe is all it takes to get it back to its original clean state.  That’s better than picking at the carpet for food bits, or scaring the girls with the noise of the dustbuster every night.

My Mommyology Bath Scooper

So(ap) far, so good! 😉

The Brica Bath Toy Scoop Organizer.  Of all the Bath organizers we’ve gone through over the last few years, this latest discovery has — so far! — been the best one of all.  First of all, the suction grip works really well.  The other suction holders would slide down the minute steam hit the tiles!  The next bit is that the organizer is also in the form of a scooper, so it makes it easier for the girls to clean up their bath toys when they’re done.  All they have to do is scoop up the toys!  It makes for a fun game too since they’re chasing a bunch of the toys in the water instead of picking at them one at a time.  Then the mesh bag can be hooked onto the suction holder to hang and dry, and I have not had it fall on me since I first hung it up.  Needless to say, I am a fan. 🙂

My Mommyology Mosquito Patch

We match the patch with what she wears for the day.

Mosquito Patches.  This little discovery I made while we were in Manila through OCMom and her kids.  You see back home, dengue is a huge problem (Which makes me wonder — How much does SC Johnson make now on their OFF! Insect Repellant business?  Hmmm…!  But I digress).  As it so happens, Sam seems to be loved by mosquitoes and bugs of all nationalities.  She gets the worst worst bites, the poor thing.  And yet, I can’t seem to stop her from going outside, particularly when she plays in school with the other kids under the shady trees or in the bushes.  So apart from the mosquito repellant that I apply on her daily, I add in a mosquito patch, to keep her smelling like Eucalyptus all day long.  So far it’s helped, and Sam does love the idea of having one on her since they are quite colorful.  Back in Manila they sell a pack of 24 animal-printed patches for $2.  Needless to say, I brought about 5 packs back with me (If you split that between the two girls, then that won’t last very long).  More than anything, I have a little bit more peace of mind that Sam has more “protection” from those nasty bugs.

I remember when we started out purchasing all these novelty baby and toddler things here and there my husband would look at me incredulously and say, “You fell for the marketing ploy.  AGAIN!”  And maybe admittedly, with Sam, I often did(but they were just too cute to pass up!).  What did we know, we were new parents, and they didn’t have these things manufactured back when we were children.

With Jamie, I had very little excuse and a whole lot more of justifying to do.  I still shopped, but was a little bit pickier about things, it I’d like to think.  My basic criteria is this:  If it makes my life easier and it doesn’t hamper my girls’ independence, creativity or learning abilities, then it’s a purchase worth making in my book! 🙂

June 29, 2012
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A Brave Date with My Brave (Big) Little Girl

Warning:  Movie spoiler alert.  I will try to keep it to a minimum.

Last Sunday I took Sam to see the much-awaited Disney Pixar film, Brave (Yes, we contributed to its $66.7-M debut).  We’d built up anticipation around the event as it was her very first time to watch in an actual movie house.  Together we watched the trailers, read the book (The one that we have is the simplified version, one that Sam can read by herself) and have seen the toys in the Disney store.  I made sure she could sit still for at least 90 minutes watching a long film at home (We do have some princess movies to practice on) and could pick up a little bit of the main plot here and there.  Sam was excited — to put it mildly.  And I think she was also just super happy to go on a solo, non-errand date with me!  It’s been a while, I’d have to admit.

I was fairly excited too – quite honestly.  I hadn’t seen the inside of a cinema since before Jamie was born.  That was over 16 months ago.  And I’d been reading a lot of the hype surrounding this latest Pixar-Princess film.  Peggy Orenstein touched on it a little bit in her new book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter (This is a must-read if you have girls!).  She seemed to be unlike the stereotype princesses that Disney has made in the past — with a love story, “marry the prince” plot.  In fact in the more recent films , the female characters have gotten — uhh, how do we put it? — less male dependent (Rapunzel, Tiana and Mulan to name a few) and have done things to change their own destiny.  Still somehow, while their characters have become more strong-willed, there was some form of “saving” needed from the male protagonists.  Brave didn’t have that last bit, and that gave it a little bit more talk-value.  Even the merchandise hype around Merida the main character focused on how she was unlike the usual girly-girl dolls.

Instead, the plot was more about the relationship of a mom and her firstborn daughter, which made me want to see it with Sam all the more.  I felt that we (I) could relate. 😉  But I will get to all of this later.

My Mommyology Brave Sam

Of course we had to document every step of the way!

My first insight to this whole process was how conscious we were in ensuring it was a pleasant experience from beginning to end.  My husband purchased the tickets online (even if it cost a tad bit more than usual), just in case there was a line at the ticket counter.  We didn’t want Sam, already bursting at the seams with excitement, to stand in line under the sun unnecessarily.  Also, if she decided to jump and run, I would have to leave my place in line, which may have been the beginning of the unraveling of the supposed happy afternoon. I also made sure she took a decent potty break before we left the house, and that she didn’t get any water in until we were halfway into the movie.  That sounds mean I know, but I wasn’t about to stand up in the middle and miss parts of a good film for possible potty encounters!

We entered the theater 30 minutes before the previews started to get good seats.  I let Sam play and stand in our row for as long as the lights were on.  I decided asking her to sit and be quiet while nothing was happening was just a little bit too much.  And since it was a special occasion, we took lots of pictures with Brave merchandise, and also bought a huge pack of M&Ms to celebrate (What sugar rush?!).

 In addition to all of that I gave Sam a little heads up on movie-theater watching.  We would watch in the dark and the sound would be loud.  There’s normally no problem with this but I wanted to be sure we covered all bases of possible reasons to leave halfway.  I said that if she got worried or scared, she could sit in my lap or hold on to me.  She seemed fine with the concept, up until it actually happened.  I could feel her trying to be Brave, but her hand slowly crept up my arm and held on.  She still had a smile plastered on her face though, as if to show me there was no reason to leave.  By the time the previews were over and the movie started, she was nicely snug on my lap and in my arms eating her M&Ms, and my bag took the chair.

The second thought that hit me while we were watching the film was, “Thank God we read the book before this!”  I could tell from the sound effects when things were supposed to be scary or surprising.  Each time I’d whisper to Sam and ask if she remembered what happened next and she’d nod and whisper the answer back to me.  “She meets the witch!”  or “She turns into a bear!  Oh no!”  So the book definitely, definitely helped, and that is now going to be my new protocol before taking the girls to any movie.  That would go for Jamie too — seeing as how she is so much more sensitive than Sam is.  There were still a few surprising parts that even made me jump and clutch Sam tightly, but then at least she was in my lap and she felt a little bit safer (Why then, would movie houses charge for a child’s ticket if they just end up in your lap?!).

All in all Sam did surprisingly well and took out a lot from what she watched.  The film had just enough adult humor to enjoy but it was also light and quirky enough for the kids to appreciate.  A lot of the storyline was still beyond her comprehension (I wasn’t about to explain the betrothal for instance), but she was able to follow the story’s sequence and pick up a few funny moments here and there.  Of course at the end of it all I cried as the movie touched me as a mom with a strong-willed first-born little girl.   I can see the disagreements and misunderstandings we may have down the line but of course I hope it only strengthens our relationship in the end.  The insights and reflections I made were my biggest take away from this entire experience.  It’s funny how an animated film can do that for you.

I’m so glad I took Sam to see it.  I thoroughly enjoyed the movie and like Sam, wouldn’t mind watching it again (We are going to get a copy of that DVD for our future library I just know it!)  I also love the idea Sam and Jamie will grow up with Merida as their generation’s princess (Mine was everyone between Snow White and Jasmine I think).  She’s not such a bad figure to aspire towards.  In fact she does have a lot of the characteristics I’ve said I wanted my girls to have when they get older.  Well, maybe except the self-absorbed teenager bit, but as moviefone.com says, it does make her more authentic.

And to add a cherry on top of Sam’s wonderful afternoon (she was skipping out of the theater as happy as a bee in honey), we found Mr. Frankie inside the mall.  He provided the perfect souvenir for us:  a bear-shaped balloon.  Typical Sam, she chose to name it Mor’du, the antagonist in the film.  😉

My Mommyology Brave Souvenir

Of all the wonderful characters in the film, Sam was attracted to the “villain”. I fear for my wits during her teenage years! 😉

 

June 21, 2012
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Hamburger Day at Brother’s Burger!

Of all the things my husband and I miss about the Philippines, it’s the food.  When we flew home for the holidays last Christmas, we were both shocked at how many new restaurants sprouted up in the last two years.  With the limited time, we didn’t get to try many of them (of course I had to get my staples in, those were the priorities!).  The one burger chain (we need to categorize according to food offering and type of cuisine, there are that many favorites) that has been on our list was Brother’s Burger.  In fact, I don’t recall seeing it in the old location that we use to go to — or maybe it just covered, I’m not sure.  But Brother’s Burger never failed to satisfy!

So when my friend emailed to say that their Brother’s Burger Branch at “THE HUB”, Greenfield District (in Edsa Central) was now open, I was excited to help spread the word.

If you can, pass by between June 22 – 23, and avail of their 50% promo on all Big Brother’s burgers!  Oooh!

My Mommyology Brother's Burger

Don’t forget to add the mushrooms and extra cheese!

June 17, 2012
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A My Mommyology Discovery: My SweetARTS

There’s a new parent/caregiver – child activity in town this summer over here in Chapel Hill, and it’s called My SweetARTS.

 

My Mommyology My SweetARTS

Logo captured from www.mysweetarts.com

I first discovered it at the  Touch-a-Truck event last April and learned about the program from co-founder Rosario Vila.  She and her partner Michelle Schoof were putting together a set of age appropriate infant and toddler classes at the University Mall, and Jamie and I were one of the lucky chosen few to get a free trial class.

The My SweetARTS curriculum is a combination of Michelle’s  music, art, and drama education and Rosario’s love for visual arts and crafts.  I actually like the way Michelle sings and Rosario has such a warm personality.  She talks to each child personally and tries to engage them in every activity.

In the class that we attended, Michelle played the guitar and led the singing and movement activities (as from what I understand, the songs sung are original), while Rosario helped each child take a turn on the chosen instrument or assisted by featuring pictures related to the topic.  Our class had as its theme “Exploring the 5 senses”, and the lyrics to familiar children songs’ melodies were thus adapted to the theme.  A familiar story was also injected into the activity where animal sounds were played to create a multi-sensory experience.

The best part (at least in my opinion) was the arts and crafts portion.  Towards the end of the class Michelle and Rosario revealed an area in the room which had cold colored noodles, play-doh, some chalk, magnets and little packs of grapefruit, coffee beans and lemons for the kids to explore, taste, and play with.  Jamie absolutely loved the noodles and even took a lick of a piece of lemon and a piece of grapefruit.  I couldn’t tear her away from the play-doh either, even if I knew she was already tired and ready to go.

My Mommyology My SweetARTS kids

Property of My SweetARTS, Chapel Hill.

I felt that this was what made the class unique to the current offerings here in Chapel Hill.  There aren’t that many programs for infants and toddlers which offer art appreciation, craft exploration or a multi-sensory experience using creative materials.  That’s the kind of thing that I find Jamie is into now as we are always drawing and coloring and pulling out the play-doh.  The current activities that we go to (The Traveling Teacher Show Gymboree and Bull City Crafts) are geared more towards the older kids, and we do go because of Sam (Jamie is just shlepped around with no choice on her part) so it’s nice to find something that is specifically for Jamie’s age range.

My SweetARTS has four sets of classes: the Sweet Peas for 4-14 month old children, the Sweet Berries for 14 – 24 month old toddlers, the Sweet Potatoes for 2-3 year old children and the Sweet Families for families with multiple children of all ages.  There’s an ongoing promotional rate this summer for eight classes and one make-up class.  You can read more about each of the classes on their website.

Although Michelle and Rosario officially launched their programs about 2 weeks ago, they are open to drop-ins for the classes that still have space.  You just need to contact them at info@mysweetarts.com.

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