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March 18, 2014
by mymommyology
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Three Years of Jamie

It’s 3AM and I just finished cooking the spaghetti sauce for Jamie’s school party, happening in a few hours.

My culinary birthday concoctions.  Well, adaptation is better. ;)

My culinary birthday concoction… well, adaptation is better. 😉

The recipe called for wine, and so of course I helped myself to a little bit of it too. 😉

Cheers! (blurry picture -- how many have I had anyway?!)

Cheers! (blurry picture — how many have I had anyway?!)

When my husband found out I had plans of cooking after getting the girls to bed (amongst the other things I still need to finish), he suggested I just order food for the kids from the regular fast food chains.  And while I’ve every respect for the local and large fast food conglomerates of this country (I must not bite the hand that feeds the cradle, heehee!), I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.  My girls get them often enough on a regular basis, I just felt that I needed to do something a notch above that, especially on the day they came into this world.

In a way, the frantic late-night cooking (and yes, the glasses of wine), are a way to distract me from crying about the time that is flying by so fast.  Of course I am emotional — it is again, one of my kids’ birthday, and really this time, it’s my little baby who’s growing up.

Jamie is 3, I can’t believe it.  My baby is “a real toddler now”, she says.  Where did she get that phrase?  And where did all the time go…

The birth order concept they talk about is true though, that youngest children are often babied longer.  And they know it too!  It’s a good thing that Sam loves her sister so much and their relationship is one for the books.  I couldn’t ask for a better bond between those two, and it makes me genuinely happy to see the way they are with each other (despite their daily disputes!).

I love how they are with each other!

I love how they are with each other!

And while Sam can make me cry because her firsts are my firsts as a parent, the tears that come with Jamie’s firsts are because I know that they are my last.

I haven’t been able to come back and blog for a while.  As you recall, I fired my yaya at the beginning of the year, and two months later, I still don’t have a replacement for her.  I have a cleaning lady that comes in once or twice a week to get things in order, and my Mom’s trusted helper of 20 years also assists in shuttling the kids back and forth weekly.   No one stays in to pick up and clean and wash the dishes and do the laundry.  That’s all fallen on me, on top of everything else I’ve had to do.  I’ve never felt busier.  I can’t wrap my finger around why, but it is harder to be help-less in Manila than it was in Chapel Hill.  I’m fine with it though, because it gives me more time with the girls and adjusting to their schedules.

With my emotion-led Jamie — every day is a surprise.  You never know what you’re gonna get out of my little Dove.  There are a lot of factors that affect her mood and disposition on a daily basis, so I feel like I’m drawing a wildcard each time she wakes up.  She keeps me on my toes, and hopefully she will keep my young. 😉  In fact I catch glimpses of what our future days will be like when she is older, and a little bit more headstrong.  Ohhh boy!

One of her more adventurous moments.  She does love the water though.

One of her more adventurous moments. She does love the water though.

Looking back at the last three years, Jamie has grown so so very much.  I suppose the better term is blossomed.  She’s not as shy as she used to be.  It’s crazy listening to her own observations and perceptions of the world.  She’s always asking WHY.  And she has the sharpest memory — I’m genuinely impressed.  She’s become more independent and a tad bit braver, but also more confident in herself and her abilities.  I love how I still continue to discover new things about her and decipher what it is she needs to learn or loves to do.

❤️

🙂

And yet despite all these changes and nuances and variables thrown my way, I still love how she knows that she really still is — and will always be — our baby.

Even if she won’t remember me losing sleep because I cooked and fixed the house to make her birthday morning exciting (and in the end it probably wouldn’t matter to her if I went with the fast food option), I’d still do it this way anyway.

Happy 3rd birthday to my darling.  No matter how old, you’ll always be our awesome little princess. 

Life is sweeter with you in it!

Life is sweeter with you in it!

February 12, 2014
by mymommyology
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Gingersnaps at 20: Two Decades of Chic Children

Fashionable kids clothes?  It's this.

Fashionable easy-to-wear kids clothes? It’s this.

When I think of children’s clothes, Gingersnaps is top-of-mind.  And that’s not an easy thing to be, especially when you have a myriad of brands, both young and old, local and international, that offer a basic necessity for parents and their kids.  One way or another, a child needs to be dressed, and they will wear out or run down their clothes pretty fast.  In fact a child doesn’t need fancy things growing up; sometimes they’d even be better off wearing the same thing every other day, washed or not!

So how has Gingersnaps managed to stay successful and relevant for the last two decades?  From the point of view of a fellow business owner and entrepreneur, I’d love to have a brand that has withstood the roller coaster ride of two decades and made it out on top.  From the point-of-view of a consumer I’m just floored and impressed by it all.

They make quality, stylish clothes.  The kids themselves love them.   Sam and Jamie have never been picky with their clothes, at least until they finally learned to wear Gingersnaps.  Now that’s pretty much all they want to wear!  The fabrics are comfortable, the styles and silhouettes are trendy, and the clothes LAST.  The colors don’t fade no matter how many times they’re washed.  And they’re easy to wear too.  Nothing too stiff that a child wouldn’t be comfortable in it no matter where he or she was going.

In fact, Jamie has inherited some of Sam’s first few Gingersnaps outfits and they still look brand new.  We even used some of the outfits in our family photoshoot last November.

They’re not afraid to stay ahead of the curve.  In pure marketing speak, Gingersnaps would be considered a lighthouse brand.  They’re one of the very few who dictate the trends, are always on the look-out for the latest, and are constantly experimenting with new ideas.  In fact,  I love how Gingersnaps knows how to mix and match prints and textures and designs.

I watch a lot of Project Runway and I’m constantly in awe at how some designers know which prints work together and which color schemes and textures complement each other.  Sabrina Uy, the Creative Director of Gingersnaps has a natural talent for that.  She’s very hands on with the entire process, so it’s no wonder that the output is as excellent as it is.

When you enter a Gingersnaps store, it’s well-lit and easy to navigate, even with little kids in tow.  It shows that the lay-out is well thought through.  My girls always love the way the stores are set up and they don’t give me problems about shopping there.  In fact they love coming along and exploring a Gingersnaps store.  Everything feels fresh, new and exciting.

I love how the stores always look so fresh!

They’ve given the brand to their consumers.  The Gingersnaps’ 20th anniversary was truly a celebration, a testament of the brand’s success and growth throughout the years.  My little family was invited to witness such a momentous event in the Gingersnaps history — and the girls were so generously dressed for the occasion.  Let me tell you, we were all excited to be there!

My girls at the photowall wearing pretty much everything Gingersnaps! :)

My girls at the photowall wearing pretty much everything Gingersnaps! 🙂

It was a simple get together for retail partners, customers and friends, and our families.  The show was the launch of their 2014 Collection,and it featured the top 10 kids in the recent Gingersnaps model search.

Love this look!  Sam would love it too!

Love this look!

It was THE cutest fashion show I’ve ever seen.  And it was the simplest, most succinct anniversary celebration I’ve been to as well.  The marketing person in me can logically understand and appreciate every aspect of the event.

The consumer and the mom in me is at a loss for words… in a good way.   In fact I don’t reason and I don’t think about it too much.  Gingersnaps gives me an easy, happy feeling.  I will instinctively make a beeline for it each time I see a branch in the mall.  I don’t have to think twice; I know for sure I’ll get awesome quality and stylish outfits for my girls, and for the other kids I purchase for.  The brand and the look of the box alone speaks volumes.  It’s exactly what every brand hopes to attain from its consumers over time.

Congratulations again Jerry and Sabrina!  We look forward to the next two decades and more!

Jerry and Sabrina Uy, the brilliance behind the brand.

Jerry and Sabrina Uy, the brilliance behind the brand.

February 4, 2014
by mymommyology
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The Beautiful Discovery of Discovery Shores

My husband likes to tell people that we used to frequent Boracay at least three times a year.  This was a time long ago, BEFORE the children were born.  We’d book a relatively cheap affordable hotel, pack light (sometimes fitting our things into one bag for both of us) and spend the whole day (and practically half the night) on the beach.  Essentially all we needed was a bed and a clean bathroom.  I had my Lysol anyway, I knew I could disinfect every inch of whatever room to my liking.  I was that… “easy”.

Now when we go with the kids, my husband can’t believe his ears and eyes.  Our bags have multiplied from one check-in luggage, to three suitcases, and three pieces of hand carry.  And before we get to this “trimmed down” state of affairs, there’s a lot of negotiating on my part as to why we need “all of that”.  Needless to say he’s mastered the art of Sherpa-ing, with the way he single-handedly carries our things (while I carry my handbag and the girls).  I’m sure you all know, when traveling with toddlers, the amount of baggage you bring is inversely proportional to their size.  In fact it multiplies exponentially.

And so do the costs for everything else!  The flights are for four instead of two.  And when we choose a place to stay, suddenly I’m not so “easy” anymore.  My previous criteria for an okay, acceptable hotel has just gone out the window into another land, far far away from the beautiful shores of Boracay.  As a mom I have a dozen and one more concerns that need to be addressed.

I won’t bore you with the details of what this new criteria is for a hotel choice, but I will tell you why I would totally pay for a stay in Discovery Shores Boracay over and over again (at the very least when we travel with kids).

Impeccable service.  The word “spoiled” comes to mind… in a good way.  I feel that as a guest paying for this luxury, I should be able to ask for (practically) anything — for all members of the family.

Talk about spoiled... look at these two princesses getting a welcome foot massage!

Talk about spoiled… look at these two princesses getting a welcome foot massage!

And I have actually.  There have been many moments that I needed the most random things at the most inappropriate times.  Like a measuring tape while having breakfast.  Or headache medicines in the middle of the night.  We’ve never been made to wait long; there’s a staff member that readily runs to get you what you need… stat!

I was sick and a Discovery Shores staff member went hunting for the medicine I needed.  Meanwhile, the kids took care of me with "Frozen".

I was sick and a Discovery Shores staff member went hunting for the medicine I needed. Meanwhile, the kids took care of me with “Frozen“.

Last year when we went for Sam’s 4th birthday with OCMom’s family, we were booked in one of their lofts that had a very open stair rail and top ledge.  Little kids could fall through, particularly our little kids.  Instead of making us transfer rooms, they built rails and a make-shift door to block the bottom part of the stairs so that the kids wouldn’t be able to access it so easily.  They gave us a most convenient solution without any fuss.

They took care of these open slats so the small kids were safer.

They took care of these open slats so the small kids were safer.

The ambiance of the room makes me forget that I need to use Lysol on it sometimes.  And I’ve seen their staff clean our quarters occasionally (yes, I do that).  It’s fairly satisfactory and I don’t worry (too much) about disinfection.  Maybe it’s just perception, but whatever it is, works in their favor.

You see it all in the small details, and it adds up.  I really feels they think of everything you’d possibly need from the time that you catch sight of your placard at the airport, until the time after you check back in for your return flight home.  And if they don’t think of it, they’ll still make it happen.  That is great service.

Genuine care and concern.  During last year’s trip, the girls made friends with some of the staff members at the resortThe staff members are naturally friendly and chat up a lot of the guests, so I didn’t think much of it… until we came back again this year and they remembered the girls as much as the girls remembered them.  As much as they care for your things, they also help keep an eye on the children and treat them like very important people too.

One morning when we came down for breakfast, Sam said she wanted a table near the beach.  The ones we generally sit in to get this view were already taken at the time, and so I proceeded to convince Sam we’d be ok in the inner parts of the cafe.  I was gently interrupted by a staff member who showed me that they had actually moved another table close to the beach and set it up so that Sam could get her wish.

The safety and security on the beach.  Usually when we head out to the beach front and sea shore, we leave our valuables in a cabana or a lawn chair, a distance away from the actual shoreline where the kids like to play.  The problem then is when it’s left unattended as Boracay has many vendors and passersby that could snatch this up for you.  At the same time, it’s stressful because you can’t just let your kids run back and forth when so many people can get between your line of sight (and reach).  At Discovery Shores however, I don’t feel that stress (as much).

Considering this was peak season, it just felt like we had the beach front all to ourselves.

Considering this was super peak season, it just felt like we had the beach front all to ourselves.

They’ve put security at the perimeter of the beach and prohibit vendors from coming too close to the chairs.  The beach front also doesn’t feel as crowded and as populated, it feels safer to let the kids roam a small distance on their own.  Plus there are extra pairs of eyes, with staff members stationed on the beach front to flatten the sand, bring you refreshments and snacks and take care of your things.  We feel less worried about our valuables and can actually enjoy heading into the water as a family.

There’s no where else you need to be but there. When the kids came along, I hardly left the hotel and its beachfront.  In fact there were trips when I didn’t get to venture out at all!  Between all the bathroom runs, to the application of sunblock and naptime and bedtime, I never really had time to get anywhere far.  That’s why I felt that the resort we’d book should be one where I was comfortable spending all of my time in. 

Another thing that Discovery Shores has is its activity for children.  The last trip we made was a rainy one, so Sam and Jamie couldn’t get on the beach as much as they wanted.  It’s a good thing Discovery had a cookie-making activity as that kept her busy and distracted enough for part of the afternoon.

Happy Cookie-decorator!

Happy Cookie-decorator!

The other nice thing about Discovery is the unlimited access to food.  The kids love the snow cones by the pool as well as the various snacks they put out every day.  As a mom, that’s another thing I worry about; ensuring my kids have clean snacks in between their meals.  At least I know that they won’t get that hungry that fast.  And maybe that’s why I also don’t feel the urge to leave this hotel very often.  We have enough to do, and enough to eat right here.

The unlimited access to snacks and snow cones has won the girls over.

The unlimited access to snacks and snow cones has won the girls over.

It’s true what they say about not wanting to stay anywhere else once you’ve had a taste of the “Discovery Shores experience”.  They must have a pretty good track record as I’ve never heard of a complaint about a stay in Discovery Shores, ever. That’s pretty impressive.

For us it used to be an aspiration.  Now when we go, it’s a “requirement”. 😉  I choose to divert savings towards a reservation here if I have to.  It’s really one of the better places to stay on in the island, ESPECIALLY when you have children in tow.

January 30, 2014
by mymommyology
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Twelve Cupcakes and A Birthday Give-away!

My friend Maricris knows me (and my girls) well enough to send us a box of cupcakes from the latest Cupcake makers in town.

A pink box arrives at the door... it can only be good things! ;)

A pink box arrives at the door… it can only be good things! 😉

I haven’t been to Singapore in ages, but I did hear about Twelve Cupcakes from my cousin-in-law Tala who used to live there.  She said she’s a fan of their red velvet.  That peaked my interest because Sam is also a fan of red velvet (and chocolate.  Now it’s anything chocolate!)! 

And when I opened the box, there seemed to be a lot of interesting things going on inside…

Mmmmm.....

Mmmmm…..

Every cupcake has a different flavor!  Some are baked with fresh fruit, some are stuffed with goodies and some (gasp!) even have alcohol.  So cool for moms like me, we get our sweet treat AND our much-needed drink! 😉  They have a flavors like Strawberry champagne and Lychee martini.  If you’re a Bailey’s fan (attention, Missusbig!) also have a Bailey’s Chocolate!

Sam pretty much went for everything chocolate-based.  The Chocolate Chip, the Oreo, the Chocolate Vanilla…  They actually have more than 12 flavors to choose from!

So many flavors to choose from, it's impossible not to have one... or twelve. ;)

So many flavors to choose from, it’s impossible not to have one… or twelve. 😉

Twelve Cupcakes opened its doors in 2011 and has been expanding since across Asia.  They’ve finally made their way here to Manila with their first three locations:

  • SM BF:  G/F Sucat Road
  • Century Mall, Makati:  Lower Ground and
  • SM Mall of Asia:  Ground Floor Entertainment Mall

Their cupcakes are baked fresh daily, and go for approximately P85 each, or P100 for the special ones.  Not bad for a cupcake in our town.  And they’re quite moist and fluffy if I do say so myself, even days after the box arrived.  The base of the cupcakes is not too sweet, and so it’s nice to spread the icing around when you eat it as the combination of the two makes for that “just right” flavor.

And since it’s my birthday week, I thought we’d spread some of this handmade love with a sweet give-away!  I’ll be giving away  THREE sets of GCs!  Here we go!  Enter… rafflecopter!

a Rafflecopter giveaway

For more information about Twelve Cupcakes, visit their website:  http://www.twelvecupcakes.com or email info@twelvecupcakes.com.ph.

Find them on social media:

Facebook:  Twelve Cupcakes Philippines

Twitter: 12cupcakesPH

Instagram:  twelvecupcakesph

 

January 28, 2014
by mymommyology
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MindPrint: An Informative Tool For Parents (and Spouses too!)

My friend Trina (She pens the blog DIY Corporate Mom — and by the way, if you haven’t dropped by her blog yet, you gotta do so!  She has the best, best ideas!!) used to send her daughter to our Alma Mater, the same school that Sam goes to now.  But after a year she opted to switch her Ladybug Girl to a different school.  When I asked her why, she told me they did the MindPrint fingerprint test and the results they got helped them make the choice.

I was immediately intrigued with MindPrint.  In fact I inquired.  More than anything, I was quite curious about Jamie, because I felt that between my girls, she’s the daughter that I needed help understanding more.  (Please note, this is in no way in reference to favoritism or loving one over the other!  It’s all about my motivation to want to be the “best mom” I could be to both).  At the same time, I was curious about what Sam’s results would be if we put her through it too.  I decided I was going to save up for the test of both my children.

Many moons later and into the present, Trina sends my name to Kaiz and Michelle Patel, the proprietors of MindPrint, as they needed some help on the marketing front.  After our initial meeting, I was all the more sold on the idea of what they do.

The Benefits of Discovering One's Innate.

The Benefits of Discovering One’s Innate.

Essentially MindPrint can tell you about a person’s innate multiple intelligences, learning abilities and personality, just by scanning their fingerprints.  There aren’t any questions to be answered, verbally or written.  There is no test.  You need not even exchange any words!  But you get a pretty accurate read of the person with just one biometric reading.

The team:  Kaiz, Sarene and Michelle!

The team: Kaiz, Sarene and Michelle!

Have you ever heard the term, dermatoglyphics?  By definition it is the study of fingerprints, and it is the most advanced method of determining — essentially — who a person is and what they’re natural talents and skills are.  Hard to believe right?  But it’s quite amazing.  They say it’s a tool that the most sophisticated government agencies use to profile a person.

Pretty cool this dermatoglyphics, if I do say so myself.

Pretty cool this dermatoglyphics, if I do say so myself.

As it turns out – our fingerprints are the external maps to our brains.  Try spreading out your right finger and putting them over the left hemisphere of your head.  Each finger is a “map” to each of the five lobes, and each lobe helps us determine a specific skill or personality trait.  Our fingerprints don’t change, no matter how young or old you get.  Even if you burn the tips of your fingers, I’m told the grooves and lines and curves “grow back” in the same way.   Isn’t that cool?!  Needless to say, over the course of our engagement, I had both girls scanned, as well as myself and my husband.

This is all you have to do.  You don't even have to look! ;)

This is all you have to do. You don’t even have to look! 😉

I was so glad he agreed as he was one of the biggest skeptics I encountered when I first took them on as a client.  But it’s good to say that now he’s not (that much of a skeptic anymore!), and he admits that the results are indeed accurate.  I’m fairly sure while reading through this post, a lot of typical skeptic questions will arise, so let me try to address them here.  I truly believe that it is a helpful tool because:

MindPrint gives you a comprehensive insight as to why someone is the way he / she is.  The full report is ready three days after capturing the prints.

A hardbound copy of the report.

A hardbound copy of the report.

It’s actually the most comprehensive psychological analysis I’ve seen for such “little” input.  I was present for the interpretation of the results and I must say that it was very enlightening.  Not that I felt I didn’t know him or what he’d do in specific instances (after all these years of being together!), rather it was more like I better understood why.

With the girls’ results, I had many “aha” moments as well.  I began to identify instances in the past and validate some of the theories I had about each of their personalities.  Again, I just felt that I understood them both better, which was why I set out to do the test in the first place.

MindPrint will help you make an informed choice.  When I saw Jamie’s results (as it turns out, Jamie and I have the same personality type!  We’re both Doves!), it dawned on me that our school choice for her was actually a wonderful pick.  It was no wonder she was doing so well — as it turned out her processes are very creative and she’s very right-brained, pretty much how her pre-school helps them learn.  At the same time, we identified that her “weakest” talent was related to her fine-motor skills.   With that I immediately set an appointment with her pre-school teacher and I shared the Jamie’s results with her.  Since then I noticed she’s been more conscious about getting Jamie interested more beading exercises or writing.

MindPrint can encourage you to generate experiences that will work better for your child and your family.  One thing to note as well is that the assessment is only a tool.  It shouldn’t be the be all and end-all of the decisions that you will make for your child and your family.  As parents we still have the responsibility of providing our children with options.  We want to avoid railroading their future towards one direction because of what they’re naturally born with.

A wise friend of mine said that she believes it’s really the life experiences that define us as people.  And I would tend to agree.  At the end of the day, we become the people that we are because of the experiences we’ve had in our lives.  We learn how to handle conflict or deal with situations we’ve never been in before over time.  We learn how to acquire information and knowledge, again also over time.  MindPrint is really a tool that can help us navigate through all of this better.  For parents, it can serve as a baseline as to what experiences you would let your child have growing up — what summer activities to choose, what after-school programs to focus on, and even how to relate to them better.

For my husband and myself, as adults who have already had many life experiences, I like to look at our results side-by-side.  I noticed that in the aspects where he tends to acquire knowledge by internalizing it and understanding it on his own, such as his kinesthetic abilities for instance (Self-Cognitive), I am better at understanding it by having someone to model it for me (Affiliative).  And vice-versa.  It’s good because it makes us both aware as to how we can better compliment each other. 🙂

Parenting as we know it (and okay, marriage too!) is a continuous learning process.  It’s also the reason for the existence of this blog.  I am all for tools that can help us (me) navigate through all this better, and come out as better parents in the end.  We all have the same end-goal anyway.  MindPrint may be an investment, but it’s a once-in-a-lifetime oneand one that’s made in smaller scheme of things.  On a larger scale, with more knowledge — literally and figuratively at our fingertips — we’ve everything to gain.

You may check out Trina’s blogpost on Mindprint here, as well as my other friend Tin’s take on it here.

For more information, contact them directly:

Mind Print Philippines
Unit 803-804 TCI Tower
61 West Capitol Drive
Brgy. Kapitolyo, Pasig City
Philippines 1603
Telephone: +632 631 0563
Mobile: +63917 808 9812 Email:  kaiz@mindprint.ph
Website: http://www.mindprint.ph

 

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