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There is a belief that whatever it is you do on New Year’s you will do for the rest of the year.  If that is the case, then one of the things I would love to do all year round is blog, and so with one hour left into the first day of 2012, I will try to get a post in. 🙂

As typical new year’s traditions go, we make resolutions for the things we want to change or do in the next 364 days (oooh!  365 since this year is a Leap Year!).  I’ve found though over the last few years that after the first week of trying, I get tired of my resolutions and fail miserably (heehee).  So this year instead of making resolutions I know I will only last for the next 14 days at best, my new goal is to take things one day at a time and see, at the end of the year, where things lead.

I am a planner by nature, and I like to know what it is I will be doing or where it is I will be in the months to come.  And yet ironically, everything about the last few years were all unplanned — albeit delightful and beautiful — occurrences.  Unplanned to a certain degree, and also out of my control (For those who know me would know that normally that would drive me nuts!)  I look at my two girls sound asleep (snoring to the highest heavens), and think about how their presence in my life has changed me, and how much I have learned from them already.   One lesson of which is to just go where the winds take us, literally and figuratively speaking.

It isn’t an easy thing to do though, as it is against my very nature, but it is a valuable lesson nonetheless.  A Facebook note by a dear friend and colleague, who is so young and yet already so wise, (and who shall remain anonymous, until I get permission to give her name out) struck me as it felt like a very apt lesson to start the new year with.  She called it, Acceptance Surrender.  And parts of what she wrote is something I’d like to share here:

There is no use in fighting things we cannot change and things that are meant for us. You never know – where you are right now might be your purpose. You just need a new perspective. Open your heart to new possibilities. 

Embrace what you have right now whether you’re perfectly content with it or not. And as you accept the things you cannot change, let go of those who / which you need to set free so you can also set yourself free. Don’t ever let anyone decide for you who you should be. 

More importantly, acceptance is key for any commitment made. Because once you’ve committed to something, you must embrace it as a whole. You must wake up each day knowing that you’re in it for better or worse. 

I’ve come across this line in the book “Before Ever After” by Samantha Sotto – “If we accept time for what it is, how it flows and how we flow with it, I doubt very much that we would continue wasting loads of it by constantly checking our watches. Where we are now is where a lifetime’s worth of steps have taken us. Are we early for this moment? Are we late? Should we hurry back because your watch says so or should we linger as long as we can in the second where we stand……..Life is a strong drink served up in an extremely short and fragile short glass.”

Accept what has been and what is and surrender to what will be.

As another dear friend has said over in time:   To what has been — thank you; and to what will be — Yes!

Happy New Year to you and your loved ones, wherever in the world you are at this moment in time!  🙂

Author: mymommyology

I am the mom that I am because of my two wonderful little girls. They teach me everyday.


  1. So true! For me too 🙂 Nice reminder 🙂 Happy new year and here’s to 2012 of awesome blogging 🙂

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